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My Story: Coming Out

Postiwyd gan emb789 o Caerdydd - Cyhoeddwyd ar 08/02/2012 am 10:15
6 sylwadau » - Tagiwyd fel Comedi, Ysgrifennu Creadigol, Pobl, Materion Cyfoes

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Inspiration for this came from AddictedToDrPepper, one of my favourite people.

Recently, I had to have a very tough conversation with my parents. My sexuality was something I’d been aware of for a long time, but I wasn’t sure how to speak to them about it. I kept saying to myself, “Tonight, when we sit down for dinner, I’ll tell them,” but I could never quite find the courage. In the end, I let weeks go by without even noticing.

But eventually, I was forced to confront them. There was a certain someone who had caught my attention, and so we started going out together on the weekends. We did things like going to the cinema, and going for walks down rather lovely walking trails. I would tell my parents that I was going to the cinema, or that I was going shopping with, “Oh, just a group of friends. Rachel, Alex, Anna, that lot,” And they accepted it without quarrel. It was going fine, for the first month or so. And then Anna inadvertently messed up the whole system.

While I was allegedly shopping for prom dresses with Anna, she called my parents to ask if I was in, and if I wanted to go over to her house to make cookies with her. Of course, they panicked, and immediately called me, demanding that I went home. I apologised to my date and took my leave. I wished that the bus I was on would never reach its destination, but unfortunately, those wishes only come true when they’re fears. I inevitably got home, and I knew it was time to face up to the truth. How would they take it? Would they still accept me as their child? Would they be disappointed? There was only one way to find such answers. It was time to admit to the truth.

The three of us sat down together around the dinner table, and my mother began things by giving a big, chunky monologue about how worried they were, how I shouldn’t lie to them, and didn’t I know I could’ve been killed and nobody would’ve been able to save me? I wasn’t listening properly; she made speeches like these far too regularly. My father cut in then, and he told her not to worry too much, not to antagonise me, and she sighed, and sat back. She said, “Go on, then. Explain yourself.” No more delaying. It was time.

“Mum, Dad, I’ve been wanting to tell you this for a while. I’m sorry for not doing it sooner. I’ve found someone who I think I am in love with. When I am with this someone, the dark sky turns beautiful shades of blue, and the abrasive appearance of this city is masked by their face. You know what? Why should gender matter? It’s an entirely trivial factor. If I like someone this much, why should the presence or lack of, male genitalia have any role in that? Mum, Dad, I’m sorry to have to tell you this. I think…”

I paused for a moment. It was time to say it. It was the time to say the words that would shape my future. “I think I’m straight.”

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6 Comments – Postiwch sylw

CeefaxOfLife

Rhoddwyd sylw 3 mis yn ôl - 8th February 2012 - 10:26am

BOOM!

Sam (Sub-Editor)

Rhoddwyd sylw 3 mis yn ôl - 8th February 2012 - 10:26am

I think this raises an important point. It shows that we don't have full equality, we assume everyone is straight until told otherwise. Why should we assume what someone's sexuality is?

boo bear

Rhoddwyd sylw 3 mis yn ôl - 8th February 2012 - 10:33am

# You should believe in yourself, you must never be scared of who and what you are. you may have told you parent after a couple of weeks but aslong as you've told them it is all over with just move on and be happy in your life:)

Stormer007

Rhoddwyd sylw 3 mis yn ôl - 8th February 2012 - 10:34am

emb, you're amazing! =P Come back please!!

nayyy

Rhoddwyd sylw 3 mis yn ôl - 8th February 2012 - 12:12pm

I think you should belive in yourself and dont be shy to say what you feel, their your parents and should accept you as a child no matter what sexuality you are. I'm glad you posted this because it makes people realise that you shouldn't be to scared to say things to your parents or even family and friends.