That Special Someone
I have been with my girlfriend for about four years now. This is my first real relationship, which started when I was nineteen, and it's going very well thanks for asking.
Other contenders for 'first real relationship' title include being deeply in love numerous times but never saying anything, one painfully embarrassing four minute 'date' in year nine, and one accidental date where I was under the impression I was meeting several people at the cinema, when in fact all of her friends "couldn't make it..."
While my relationship is everything I could ask for, I sometimes feel like I could be missing out. They (Savage Garden) say that you can't appreciate real love until you've been 'burned' (I promise I had to Google that lyric to find the band, honest), and while I am not sure if that is true, I do feel slightly like I'm missing out on a life experience by not having 'an ex'. My girlfriend and closest friends all have at least one, and generally don't want to discuss them no matter how much I enquire (I must be a laugh at parties). I just feel that by skipping the dramatic, explosive relationship going pear-shaped there's a little bit of me that hasn't quite fallen into place. Sure, there'll be those of you thinking 'be thankful!' but I'm equally sure that you can't deny that that whole time in your life was a) an experience and b) made you a stronger person.
That is why, on the day after Valentine's Day, I am putting out a call to try and find that special someone. Someone who is willing to be my ex. Someone who, when I am on a night out, I can be slightly nervous about bumping into. Someone who can ruin my night without even being there, because a song will remind my drink-addled brain of them. The girl I can compare to my girlfriend when our relationship is going wrong and think "at least she isn't stamping all over my heart like X".
The person who can act as an excuse for me hating a perfectly reasonable film or band or TV show, because I watched it with them, and while it might actually be quite good, it just stirs up too much vitriol to be worth it. Somebody about whom I can share highly unflattering stories with my friends late into the night, and know that they too are doing the same.
I know that there's somebody out there to fill that special place in my heart (I am calling it my epicentre of hate).
On a related note, I might also be in the market for a nemesis... similar to the ex, but more of a platonic hatred.
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CeefaxOfLife
Commented 15 months ago - 15th February 2011 - 13:59pm
I always "enjoy" the knot in my stomach I get every 6-9 months when the ex pops up in the "People You May Know" feed on Facebook. One of the many ways Facebook can ruin your day.
Tyezer
Commented 15 months ago - 15th February 2011 - 15:06pm
Good luck with your request. It's an interesting concept.. trying to find an ex whilst you're still in a relationship. It's a bit Dave Gorman. You could probably sell the idea to some publisher and get a wad of money to document your journey!